At this stage, I am still unsure of the right person, currently waiting for God's GO signal. And while I have met men that may be smitten or attracted to me, I wonder if they have the devotion to persevere through the hard times. The times when I’m insecure and fragile, when I hurt and don’t have the energy to be a happy mood enhancer, when I’m inpatient and frustrated, when I trip and bruise because I’m such a klutz, when I lack basic life skills with anything that has to do with cars, appliances and meals that involve more than 5 ingredients, when I’m not pretty and have zero sex appeal, when gravity takes force and I have wrinkles and a much larger dress size, when I’m emotionally drained and weak… will you still persevere?
Divorce rates are at phenomenal highs, and I’m sure that if you were to count the number of friends you have in healthy relationships, the ratio of unhealthy and unhappy ones would overrule. There are many reasons behind this, one being we are no longer marrying for survival, as many in our parents and grandparents generations did, divorce is a lot more attainable and accessible than it was ever before in history, and so forth. We like quick fixes and we want it fast and we want it now. And if you stop to really think about it, this everyday way of being transpires into the way we conduct and go about our relationships as well.“Things” are disposable and unfortunately, this mentality has equated to people being disposable too. When it feels good, when all the right chemicals are reacting together to create a blissful, excited harmony, we are “happy” and some would say, “in love”. But when it stops bringing that pleasure, excitement, rush and fun, then the easy thing is to dispose and just get a new one, or cheat. Of course, I’m not saying everyone is like this, but I do feel many people go about “love” in this manner. This way isn’t necessarily wrong as that would depend on your personal value set and definitions, but for me, I don’t think it is rooted in reality, and practically speaking, it’s exhausting.
Relationships are hard, and true, loyal commitment is even harder. So if you decide to get married, consult God first.
